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Living, Vibin’ & Alone in the own zone

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 Humans are social animals.... We are naturally drawn toward people. We want someone to talk to after a long day, someone to laugh with over absolutely pointless things, someone to call when life gets a little too heavy, and sometimes, just someone sitting beside us without saying anything. We grow up believing that having people around us is a necessity. Friends, colleagues, groups, circles, communities, the bigger the circle, the more connected we supposedly are. I tried being that person too. I tried fitting into circles, maintaining friendships, being available, participating in plans and keeping conversations alive. But somewhere along the way, I realized something rather uncomfortable: I was constantly trying to fit myself into places where I didn't really belong. As of now, many people around me know that I stay alone. I no longer fancy big groups of people around me because I noted that I get extremely uncomfortable when there are huge number of people around me. That is ki...
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The Projection Effect in Obsession: When We Start (IMAGINING) Ourselves in Someone Else

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 Obsession in Love is a dangerous game, there is no turning back...until its too late... The age of 25-30 is weird phase to be in. I have read this somewhere and it makes total sense. Someone is building their career, someone is buying their first home/car, someone is still struggling to make ends meet, someone is going on a double dates, someone has found pure love while someone is struggling with breakup or depression. Everyone is doing so many different stuff that it is hard to keep track of everyone though. However, the important point I would like to emphasize here that in this age group, knowing about the obsession over someone, people tend to do that a lot in this age though. There is a fascinating point where liking someone begins to change the way we perceive them. We stop simply noticing what they do and start analyzing it. A glance becomes a signal. A delayed reply becomes a message. A casual interaction gets replayed repeatedly in the mind. Eventually, the person occupi...
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Location: Pune, Maharashtra, India
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Right Things at the Wrong Time : Maybe They Weren’t Meant to Stay

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  It will stay, if it meant to... There is something strangely cruel about meeting someone at the wrong time. Not because they did something wrong. Not because you did something wrong. Sometimes, there is no villain, no betrayal, no dramatic ending. There is just two people who somehow find each other, feel something, and yet life refuses to cooperate. Different cities. Different priorities. Different stages. One person is healing while the other is ready. One is building a career while the other is searching for a home. Sometimes you meet someone when you are still becoming the person you need to be. And then you start wondering, What if? Okay, you get where I am going now. In simple words : There is a situation in our life, we tend to find a perfect person suitable as a life partner in some point of our life. While you feel that you have won the battle, some things certainly do not work out in your favor.  What if we had met a year later? What if circumstances were different...
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The Psychology of Being Taken..... but for Granted : How to get over the feeling

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 "Nobody does whatever they like; they do what you let them do.”  ~ ~ ~  Tommy Vercetti, in GTA Vice City at the start of mission "Naval Engagement" Never thought a random statement from a computer game would make such a sense. I randomly discovered it while playing story missions. For a backstory, the person whom Tommy says this words was complaining that people are laughing at him and he was being saying this in anger, but Tommy gave him reality check though with this statement. At first, this statement may sound cynical, almost as if human relationships are nothing more than a constant battle of control. But psychologically, it points toward something much more subtle: people learn the boundaries of their relationships through repeated behavior. When you continuously tolerate something, accommodate something, or remain silent about something that hurts you, the other person may eventually stop seeing it as a boundary at all. Your availability becomes expected, you...
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Location: Pune, Maharashtra, India
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The Rubber Duck Interview: How a Cute Bath Toy Accidentally Explains Why I Keep Passing Interviews

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I never expected a yellow bathtub duck to become one of my favorite psychological concepts. I was having an intense discussion on this topic with my friend over a phone call. I was familiar with the terminology of this rubber duck but what it actually was, I was unable to put forth in a psychological way. As a person, who spends 95% of his time alone inside the room, I decided to think on this topic and share my opinions or insights. So lets buckle up.
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Location: Pune, Maharashtra, India
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The Second Place That Created Me ; Built by Defeat, Driven by Revenge

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 Every Second Place Was a Declaration of War... Most people hate losing. I don't. Losing is simple. When you lose, the result is clear. You know where you stand, you know what went wrong, and you know how much work is left to do. What I hate is second place. There is something uniquely irritating about being close enough to victory to almost touch it, only to watch someone else walk away with it. Over the years, I have realized that second place affects me differently than it affects most people. It doesn't make me sad. It doesn't make me quit. It doesn't even make me angry for very long. Instead, it creates a permanent bookmark in my memory. Years later, I may forget what I ate that morning or what clothes I wore that day, but I will remember the feeling of standing one step away from the top. People often say that you should forgive, forget, and move on. I have never been wired that way. I don't carry hatred, but I do carry memory. Every time someone underestimate...
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Location: Pune, Maharashtra, India
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Midnight Diaries : The Late Night Thoughts of mine before bed

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Has it ever happened with you? You go to bed after a long tiring day and these countless thoughts come back to haunt you. You start talking to yourself all of a sudden in the bed itself, giving justifications and imagining the mistakes that could have been corrected. I have read somewhere that whenever a thought haunts you, you write it down on a piece of paper, and then you burn it down. Well I don't play with fire. I decided to write down my thoughts in a blog post. Right here. Hopefully I will sleep peacefully today... Because instead of talking this stuff to myself, I am trying to experiment it by talking, I mean writing it here...
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Location: Pune, Maharashtra, India
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