Mastering the Art of Anger Management: How I managed to solve my half of the problems

 "No!! YOU AGAIN!!"

Oh, I am sorry. I was angry. Just kidding. This is how most people react when someone approaches them after having a tremendously horrible day. Obviously the person is in a very bad mood and he/she will shoo away anyone, regardless of the intentions of the approached guy.

In this article, we are going to talk about one of the important topics, which is "Anger". To put things simply, Anger is a natural emotion that everyone experiences at some point in their lives. However, when left unchecked, it can wreak havoc on our personal and professional relationships, physical health, and overall well-being. The good news is that by taking the necessary steps to control our anger, we can significantly improve our quality of life and solve many of our problems. In this blog post, we will explore effective anger management techniques and how they can lead to a happier, healthier, and more productive life.

I will start off with my own story of course. The person behind writing this blog (obviously me) is a typical introvert I would say. Well, that's how I tend to describe myself. However, the reason behind it was I was unsuccessful in making too many friends. The reason is my Anger.

Anger is an emotional response to perceived threats, injustices, or frustrations. It is a part of our survival instinct, helping us defend ourselves against harm. Speaking of frustrations, many times it ends up happening in our kid years that friends taunt us and call us names. This causes the volcano of anger to explode inside the mind and the person at that period is very uncontrollable. Keep yourself in that position and imagine that someone taunts you for something which is close to you, what would you do, probably end up mercilessly attacking the person who mocked you right? That is what most people would do.

Well, there must be many reasons behind this anger. Be it hurtful sentiments, jealousy, etc. After all, there are infinitely many things going on inside the human mind. After all, there is always an "other side" of every person which is unheard to the entire world. The side which someone keeps to his personal level. Once we tend to infiltrate this personal area of someone, we tend to witness the hidden side of that person. Probably a never-seen-before version.

My History

Well, I have been a hot-headed guy since my childhood. Friends would mock me, and I would attack. That's why I never made too many friends. The attack that I mentioned included only the use of hands and legs (not sharp objects). However, the largest outburst of anger I had and probably the lesson I learned out of it was in my college life.

It all started in the morning. We were supposed to give a final semester paper (Multiple Choice Question) on a College Computer Desktop in a lab. The exam time was 10-11 AM to be precise. However, due to the no electricity, we had to delay the exam a little bit. To add more troubles, it had started to rain, making the availability of electricity uncertain. 

We hoped that electricity would resume around 2 PM and we would take our exam and head home as soon as possible. We decided that until the electricity came, we could hang out in a nearby classroom. However, a local peon misunderstood the fact that we were time-passing after the exam and kicked us out, making the a day bit more miserable. However, our professor explained the situation to the peon and he seemed to understand it. 

But I am not the kind of person who forgets what people talk about me behind my back. The insulting words of peon ranged in my head continuously. Additionally with paper getting more delayed and no food and water, it had started to get over my head. Finally, at 8 PM at night, electricity resumed and we sat to give our papers at our respective desktops.

Suddenly an unthinkable happened. The generator busted, causing a complete blackout. In a fit of rage, I bumped the desktop with a fist. (Luckily no one was able to figure out who was it due to the blackout). But the sound was big, and so was my hand, bleeding a bit.

What lesson did I learn, when in anger, you might hurt yourself. Thus endangering yourself is probably not the best idea right? That's what I thought about and started my work on anger management.

The Winning Ways

Initially, it was hard. Because when I started to interact with people, the first thing I pinpointed was that everyone has their own opinions and you cannot force yours on theirs. Often opinion clashes were one of the reasons I lost friends in adulthood. 

How do I manage to counter it? I just listened calmly. Just listen to what they say. Take their words from one ear and let them go from the other ear. As simple as that. Just say OK and move on to some discussion.

It is important to note that any decision taken in anger may come back to you in wrong ways. Never ever make a decision or move when you are angry or frustrated. Because at that time, it is important to note that we are not thinking straight.

My ultimate weapon

Silence.

Whenever you keep your mouth shut, you avoid half of your problems. Do you know how my anger graph looks like:

Thats right. Even though it escalates quickly, but in my mind, it gets cooled godspeed. Just like this graph. A mature person is someone who stays silent, rather than uttering something that would ruin a beautiful relationship/friendship whatsoever.  If you feel overwhelmed by anger, take a break. Step away from the situation to cool down. This helps prevent saying or doing something you might regret. Cognitive restructuring involves changing the way you think about situations that make you angry. Replace negative thoughts with more rational, positive ones. For example, instead of thinking, "This is unbearable," think, "This is frustrating, but I can handle it." Remember, calmness is really important factor here.

Recognize the situations, people, or events that trigger your anger. Understanding your triggers helps you prepare and respond more calmly in those situations. And most importantly, instead of focusing on what made you angry, concentrate on finding solutions to the underlying problems. This proactive approach helps in reducing frustration and anger over time.

So what is to be noted..

Anger is a powerful emotion that, when managed properly, can lead to positive changes in our lives. By implementing effective anger management techniques, we can improve our physical and mental health, strengthen our relationships, and enhance our overall well-being. Remember, controlling anger is not about suppressing it but understanding and channeling it constructively. Start your journey towards mastering the art of anger management today and witness the profound impact it can have on solving half of your problems.

Silence is what my suggestion is. If you like this talk about Anger management, we will surely talk about silence and its mastery in another blog post really soon. Until then bye. And yeah, have a happy day.