Have We Lost the Unspoken Art of On-Table Conversations?

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 "Addiction is deadly. When you are at it, even though you know its disadvantages, you still trudge down the path; regardless of the outcomes".

You might be wondering, fellow readers, if today's blog post's title and above quote make sense. Well, stick with me through this blog post, and feel free to jot down your thoughts in the comments.


My close friends are well aware (not quite sure) of my personality. I tend to be the quietest person in a room full of people. Thus, heavy conversations are certainly not my trait. I engage in conversation with the person if our interests align at some point. But I am interested in chatting with that person sitting with me who talks back and we have a fun discussion; not someone who is constantly on his/her....mobile phone.

I am putting forth my observations, Whenever I wander around for lunch or dinner in hotels, I see these kind of people everywhere, I repeat everywhere.



Imagine sitting at the table with 3-4 people, yet someone continues to have their food, talk around, and scroll through Instagram reels or YouTube shorts. We cannot continue our conversation with the person who is engrossed in his/her own entertainment in front of other people.

I will simply put forth an image; see if it makes sense.




I am not going to lie but I was too addicted to having some kind of Show running in front of me whilst having lunch/dinner. At home, we often sit in front of the TV and then have our food. As a teenager, we sat in front of a laptop or mobile phone which some show running, and then had our food. While this case scenario is okay if you are alone, it is definitely not OK when you are sitting with a living being known as your human friend around with you.

Then How did I manage to counter this habit?

I imposed rules upon myself. Most of the time, I tend to enjoy my own company. I have a look at my phone only and only when the food is being prepared inside. Take a note, I said I only TAKE A LOOK, not scrolling for entertainment while there.

The second case scenario is that when I am with somebody, then I completely tend to ignore the mobile phone; regardless of what my partner does. This way I try to engage in fun conversations, some serious discussions gossip which makes the lunch/dinner nicer. And that my friend it is where you master the art of talking to people.


What do I want to convey then?

The thing is, the less we speak with people, the more trouble we have maintaining friends. I for one, have fell victim to it. I was constantly engrossed in phones while on dinner tables due to which many people in my friend circle abandoned me in later stages of life. By imposing a strict rule that whether you are alone or not at some place, I follow a no-phone policy. Though I am at only 70% success while following this policy, I know I will get there eventually.

The Most Irritating thing according to me - is "Phones while eating outside; we brought this on ourselves; we ourselves are responsible for spoiling us on this matter!!"

Sooner or later, the person who is around you will no longer be with you, make sure you have a hearty humane conversation whenever possible, lunch/dinner time conversations are the best if you ask me. Diverting your attention is a way to shut down the beautiful medium that bounds relationships for the long term.


Disclaimer: The Above Blog is a personal opinion, shoot out your thoughts in the comments below.


Location: Pune, Maharashtra, India

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